Part 1 – Why The “Bad” Stuff Happens

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Article wriiten for Adventures in Manifesting. Read the original article here.

With access to so much information to teach us how to attract great things into our lives why do only a rare few achieve the sweetly perfumed bed of roses we all seem to be seeking? Jealously we look on to see others enjoying a perfect life while we nick ourselves on its thorns.

No matter how hard we try to avoid or change it bad things can and will happen. As single events we tend to recover quickly but when we’re in a downward spiral things seem to keep going wrong, one after another like a never ending stream of crappy karma. And we wonder what we ever did to deserve it all.

It can start with a simple forgotten task like setting the alarm clock. Some mornings you recover and get back on track, but other days the morning minutes evaporate faster than water from the Sahara sands. You miss the bus and end up driving to work in gridlocked traffic and then you realise you’ve left your mobile phone. Before the day has really started you just know it’s going to get worse.

If you’ve ever had a day like this then you know exactly how it can feel: you’re in one of those ‘moods’ and, despite the best efforts of colleagues to cheer you up, nothing is funny anymore not even Stewie’s attempts to kill Lois or Brian’s penchant for getting drunk on martinis. All you can see is a mountain of paperwork and the usual office hum that keeps you motivated is starting to annoy you.

Lunchtime promises some sun and a little mood relief but you can’t decide what to have for lunch. Nothing appeals and when you finally decide on a comforting old favourite or something exciting and new they both taste the same – bland and boring. The outside breeze picks up and you get the sniffles – “great, could this be the beginning of a head cold?”

The afternoon continues to drag on with difficult clients or projects and it feels as if you’re in the depths and darkness of a cold winter storm. You have a fight with your best friend or partner over something so trivial you can’t even remember how it started. Now you just want to get home and curl up in front of the TV with a hot bowl of soup and then get an early night, hoping to shake off the bad vibes of today. If only you could find your car keys …

You tell yourself you’re just having a bad day, week, month or year. Could this be an unlucky phase that will soon pass or could there be something deeper and darker at work that’s conspiring to make your life more arduous than climbing Mount Everest in a blizzard?

Others tell you to think happy thoughts and everything will be fine (and if you know what the acronym FINE stands for you may actually agree). But this approach to resolving the downward spiral in life will rarely work for very long, if at all – we’re emotional creatures and it’s just not that easy to flick the switch.

The ‘bad’ stuff does not happen to balance out life’s finer bits or to help us appreciate the good times. For the most part we attract bad things because it’s what we’re trying to avoid. In other words it’s what we’re resisting that’s persisting in our lives. It’s a scientific principle called “Ohms Law” which I’ll explain in more detail in the next article “Why Resistance Is Futile”.